For most parents facing a divorce in Colorado, the wellbeing of their children is their primary concern. Analysts say that kids are more likely to emerge from divorce unscathed if parents keep in mind what is most relevant from a child-development perspective. There are many theories as to the best approach for helping children cope with divorce, but ultimately, keeping your child’s best interest at the forefront of your mind is the best start.
Don’t Make Your Child Choose Sides
Most importantly, children need to know that they can maintain a close and loving relationship with each parent without hurting anyone’s feelings. Though exes may be anxious to end the relationship with each other, the children will continue the relationship with their parents for life. Kids should feel free to share the life details in each household. In the process, a parent should refrain from criticizing the other parent or the child.
Helping Children Cope With Divorce During the Holidays
The holidays are also important to consider after a divorce. Kids will want to know where they’ll be spending their holidays. All of the information about parenting time, including what time transitions will occur, should be on a calendar and accessible to everyone. As much as possible, parents should try to put aside their animosity towards each other so that both can attend important events for their children. This will actually be important throughout the year as parents may want to attend school open houses, birthdays and sporting events to see their children.
Helping Children Get Used to Different Households
Though parents may be living in different houses, the rules in both homes should be as consistent as possible. When rules change from parent to parent, kids may not have the consistency they need to thrive. Varying standards of acceptable behavior sends mixed messages to children, often confusing them as to what is allowed or important. Parents who are divorcing may find it helpful to consult a lawyer experienced in all the issues that can arise during the divorce process, such as child custody, parenting time, child support and relocation.
If you have more questions on how to help your child during or after a divorce, contact the experienced family lawyers at Litvak, Litvak Mehrtens, and Carlton P.C. at 303-951-4506.